Self-Love, Happiness, and Marriage

So often it seems we’re looking for love outside of ourselves. We think that someone or something holds the answer to our happiness and fulfillment. We believe, “I’ll be happy when I have the perfect partner, make more money, am more beautiful, quit this job…”

I’ve got news for you – this kind of happiness never, ever lasts. Ever.

Sooner or later things change. Life evolves and that perfect partner, hairstyle, bank account, etc., change too.

The only real, lasting happiness can be found within yourself.

So I’d like to propose an idea.

Marry yourself, symbolically.

Make a commitment to love, honor, respect, and care for yourself from this day forward. Get excited about building your new relationship.

Imagine what it would be like to say these vows to yourself:

I, _____, take you ______, to be mine. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, ’till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.

Actually, go ahead and say it filling your name into the blanks.

When you vow to have and to hold, love and cherish yourself through thick and thin, pretty and ugly, high times and low times, you give yourself the juicy gift of acceptance and love from the inside out.

And I really believe that when our love comes from this spacious place, we are able to give so much more love to others and the world around us. We’re expanding love, not draining it. As a result, we have healthier relationships. We also put ourselves in a position of positive power. We become our own answers, our own key.

There is great freedom in this!

No matter what happens, we know that we can always count on the love within us to carry us through. If it helps you to remember, find a ring that you love, ask yourself to marry you, and wear it on any finger you like. Bless it with love and set an intention for a lifelong, blessed relationship with yourself.

With love and an I do,
Cowgirl G

15 thoughts on “Self-Love, Happiness, and Marriage

  1. I love this!! After I got divorced, I bought myself an engagement ring. It serves as a constant reminder to stay engaged with myself and not let others suck the life out of me. Blessings to you, Cowgirl!

    • Ahh, love that Gretchen!!! Even just reading your reply, I feel more connected to my spirit…more inward and loving. Thank you for sharing. Big hugs to YOU!

  2. That is on facebook the website is . I thank you so much I needed that . My ex b/f use to tell me that Noone would love me until I love Myself ……He is right hate to say it but that is right even though he is still stubborn LOL

    • You are so welcome Janie! It’s nice knowing you can relate … and yes it sure can be difficult at times, but oh-so-worth it. Hugs!

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  4. I am so glad to see this post!

    After struggling with depression, anxiety, self-hate, all sorts of personal issues, I am finally recovering with the help of therapy and inspirational reading. I have a renewed sense of love and appreciation for myself, and I want to buy an engagement ring to symbolize the commitment I now have to me. I’m finally going to start putting myself first.

    I searched “bought myself an engagement ring self-love” and found this blog. Thanks for writing this. 🙂

    • Dear Kelly,

      Thank you so much for your comment. The road to self-love isn’t an easy one, but man, doesn’t it teach us a whole lot?? “I have a renewed sense of love and appreciation for myself, and I want to buy an engagement ring to symbolize the commitment I now have to me.” That is beautiful. I know you’ll find your perfect ring 🙂

      With full support and love,

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