Living a self-empowered life comes down to one thing: choice. It turns out, circumstances don’t actually matter all that much. Two people can experience the same circumstance and have totally different experiences. One finds inspiration; another finds intimidation. One sees adventure; another sees a dead end.
Because consciously or unconsciously, we define what we experience. We give meaning to our circumstances.
When we own our ability to make conscious choices, we recognize that it’s up to us to make the most of something. Everything (and I mean everything) can be a gift. When the gift isn’t clear, faith comes in. We can trust there is a gift, even if we don’t see it at the moment.
And truly, there is no one right way to experience anything. It’s all up to you. That’s the POWER of you, in you, given to you, and forever yours.
What’s the meaning of life? The meaning YOU give it!
On the other side of the wagon, when we make unconscious choices, we’re operating under default-robot mode, allowing societal norms, conditioned patterns, and what we’ve been taught ‘n told, to dictate and direct our life.
This works fine until you desire more from life, get tired of suffering, and want be more of the greatness you already are.
Then it’s time to make the choice to choose.
There’s a simple practice to start making conscious choices that I call “Paws & Chews.”
Here’s how it works:
Something happens. Immediately you pause. You take a quick internal moment to notice what happened (the neutral circumstance). Then you choose. You choose how you’re going to define it. You choose the meaning you give to it. Then you stick with what you chose or you choose again. That’s it!
Rinse and repeat. With everything.
Suddenly you are the artist and life is your canvas. You are the pioneer and life is your prairie. You get the idea.
*A note about feelings: this isn’t all to say that you’re never going to feel lousy, sad, lonely, crappy, or get the blues. Feelings will come up and that’s ok. See them, feel them, and allow them to be there for as long as it takes. However, feeling and believing in your feelings are two different things. Even if you feel lousy, you don’t have to believe that lousiness is your truth. You can choose to know who you are is beyond the lousiness, even if lousiness is appears. That’s still making a self-empowered choice and honoring your process.